A few years ago, I wrote about the problem with “I’ll be happy when…” statements. I think about this all the time and how we really don’t allow ourselves to be happy.
Between our society, our day-to-day lives, our goals, etc., we get so hyper-focused on the future. While it’s critical to have goals, it’s just as important to live in the now and, more importantly, be happy in the now.
I’m thinking about this more than ever, being engaged. After all, I’ve thought about being engaged my whole life. (What girl hasn’t?)
For years, I’ve wondered how I’d feel, what it would be like, what he would say. But since the first day after my man popped the question, we’ve been asked “when’s the big day?” or “do you have a date yet?” It’s certainly something “you ask,” but it’s been really important to me that we enjoy this time and not get caught up in the stress of wedding planning or being overwhelmed by the process. After all, I plan on only being engaged once in my life, so I want to enjoy it!
Shut down the tech
Since we’re all so caught up in social media and photo documenting our lives with the latest Snap, Instagram post, or Facebook post (myself included!), we seem to be having a harder and harder time enjoying the moments as they come.
So…put down the technology and appreciate what’s going on in the moment. Appreciate the moment now (and maybe take a photo or two to remember it later)!
Stop multitasking so damn much
We all do it. I do it, you do it. As women, we try to fit way too much into every single moment of our lives, but it’s not humanly possible to give your full focus to multiple tasks at the same time.
So…stop doing it!
Focus on a single task at a time, give it your all, then move to the next. I know, it’s a hard habit to break, but if you move to single-tasking, it’ll change your life.
Take a moment to appreciate the (present) moment
We also get caught up in focusing so much on future plans or what will come, that we forget to appreciate what’s going on in the present.
Again, that “I’ll be happen when…” idea.
“I’ll be happy when…I’m making more money.”
“I’ll be happy when…I finally have kids.”
“I’ll be happy when…I’m on vacation.”
Why are we choosing to be happy when and not happy now?! Working towards a goal or getting excited for the future is great, but appreciate the journey there, too.